In its own way, it seems fitting that today is Good Friday. There are symbols and themes that go along with this day that speak to how I feel about everything going on with us.

People either skip over Good Friday on the way to Easter or don’t bother to contemplate what that Friday was really like before anyone ever knew there would be an Easter.

It’s not about what will happen but what has happened and what that feels like right now.

Good Friday is about believing that things have turned out in the worst way you could imagine. It’s about once having all of this hope and then feeling like everything fell apart. It’s about being told it would happen and not believing it until you saw it with your own eyes. It’s about people’s entire view of the world and their role in it one day abruptly ending, left instead to wander aimlessly and reinvent your life. It’s about believing you were promised one thing and then having it taken from you. It’s about feeling you’re going to be shunned from this day on by society. It’s about believing from now on, you’re on your own.

It’s about the story not ending like it’s supposed to.

I think most of theology can be summed up in one word - ‘but’. I’m a writer, so I tend to see things through the lens of language. Today, I see God as the Great Conjunction.

I once believed our lives would follow a certain path, but instead a different one lies before us.

On that first Good Friday, everything fell apart, but the sun came up that Saturday, and then that Sunday, and then that Monday, and every day since.

One of the most powerful forms of speech in the Bible (depending on the version you read) goes like this: “You have heard it said that… but I say unto you…” Things will be transformed, but we’re not there yet. I’m still carrying around a lot of anger.

Good Friday is about being in the moment before the ‘but’, long before there is any hope that it will come. I may be stuck on Friday for a while.

I completely broke down Wednesday when I was giving J-Man a hug and said “I-IIIIIII… Looooooooooove” and then he gave me a kiss. I barely got the “you” out before I choked on tears.

I believe J-Man will be a living example of how to put things back together again. As frustrated as he gets, I know his stubborn, determined streak. If there is a way, he will find it. Right now I’m having a hard time believing in much, but I know I believe in him. And for now, that is enough.

If he could talk, I could see him saying, “You may say that there will be things I can’t do, but I’ll have something else to say about that.”