Here’s what happens when an I-like-my-personal-space-and-my-normal-routine kid is doted upon by a thousand of our kin at a family reunion all weekend. (Note: I didn’t make the four-hour trip, particularly because I don’t think there was anywhere for me to sleep after the family invasion of her hometown. At least that sounded like a good reason to me.)

Hi! I’m so overstimulated that I’ve gone into a spontaneous coma. Nice to meet you!

He jumped on my shoulder when he got home, and then proceeded to fall completely asleep on me. Of course, when we had to wake him up about 30 minutes later to feed him dinner and put him to bed, he wouldn’t go back to sleep and is STILL awake. Normal sleep patterns? I got your normal sleep patterns right here…

“Green is the prime color of the world, and that from which its loveliness arises.” — Pedro Calderon de la Barca

Sorry to be light on posting the last few days. We’ve all been feeling under it this week. I’m also working on a few improvements to the blog, which I’ll hopefully get done this weekend along with some posting.

In the meantime, here’s another achievement to celebrate! Even though J-Man has felt bad all week, had all sorts of weird sleep patterns, and has decided that this would be a nice time to assume the role of terrible-almost-threes-tantrum-monster, we did have a big positive. He decided to color!!

To make a long back story short, he has never enjoyed using crayons because of his sensory issues and fine motor control problems. It seems like he can’t figure out how to use the crayon, it somehow feels icky in his hand, or both. He tends to hold slender objects (like spoons, crayons, pens, etc.) at the very end with as little finger skin as he can get away with. (see first picture below) This obviously makes it very hard for him to self-feed from a spoon.

I had him ’sign’ a birthday card for my sister the other day with a crayon. Usually if we get a couple of dots and a random line, we’re happy. Even that takes a lot of effort usually. This time, he kept running the crayon back and forth and I had to take it from him so she could still read the card.

Night before last, he took one of his bathtub crayons (easy clean-up!) - very specifically the green one - and colored the edge of the tub for a good ten minutes. He has NEVER done this. He even held it some of the time in a ‘normal’ writing grasp (see second picture). Woo hoo!

After a couple of years of occupational therapy, we have coloring! On the one hand, I guess that could be depressing. But every victory is hard fought, and you gladly take every one of them regardless of cost. As you can tell in the last picture, he’s so proud of himself. That makes EVERYTHING worth it.

blowing stuff up!

You can’t get much more American than exploding things in your driveway. OK, well, you obviously can, and it was just weenie fireworks from the store. But we had no idea how he would react to stuff combusting in front of our house, so we skipped the rockets red glare and went for things that popped and crackled and smelled like Beelzebub’s armpits. Yeah, we know it’s daytime too. There was no way he was making it until dark.

To our joy, he really liked them. We even got “more” and the sign for “more” out of him! Yay!

Next year, more firepower!!

Anyway, enjoy the cute video. (It’s short.) And thanks to Uncle Jason for filming while I was trying not to catch myself on fire!

Here are a couple of pictures of the J-Man working at his desk in his home classroom. These originally were just going to be staged shots, but he actually sat there and worked the whole puzzle by himself, and without either of us sitting there keeping him from running away! That and he’s having fun!

He looks like such a big boy in these pictures. My God how the time flies.

That last picture is exactly what I’m talking about when I say seeing how proud he is of himself when he accomplishes something makes any stress we may feel seem completely insignificant.

Took this one this morning during the walking around part of his breakfast.

Say Cheese Toast!

God, he looks more and more like Mary.

I promised this post a while back. Sorry I’m just now getting around to it.

For kids who have severe speech delays and are unable for whatever reason to sign, some variation of the Picture Exchange Communication System (PECS) - known more around here as the ‘picture board’ - is a great way to get some sense of what your child wants. The fundamental principle - any kind of communication is good communication. (You can also read the Wikipedia article, though I couldn’t readily find an easy-to-read description of it.)

I use “some variation of” in the above paragraph because the PECS inventors have a specified way of doing it, and I imagine we ain’t following it to the letter. But that’s OK. This is working for us so far and I’ll tell you how we do it.

Standard disclaimer: Again, this is how we do it and isn’t intended to tell you how you should do it (or even whether you should do it) for your child. We’ve worked on adapting this to work for J-Man in concert with his speech therapist. Your speech therapist will be your best resource in developing a plan for your child.

That said, I think this is worth trying out if you aren’t getting communication by voice or sign. It’s worked well for us, and it comes highly recommended for kids with autism, apraxia, and other severe speech delays.

OK, here’s the picture board. Obviously, the board focuses on food. I’ll tell you why in a second.

[Top row - crackers and puree; middle - tea and chicken nuggets; bottom row - cheese toast and puffed veggie sticks]

It’s a simple piece of dark poster board (so the pictures show up better), tacked on to the wall with double-sided sticky stuff. Underneath the pictures are velcro dots, with the opposite part of the velcro on the back of the picture. The pictures were taken with a digital camera, printed on our home printer, and laminated. They can be detached from the board as needed to swap out pictures or use them for something else.

At first we pretty much moved him over to the board, took his hand, touched it to a picture, then handed him that food item. We repeated this routine for a while, but to our excitement he picked it up pretty quickly. We started with just 2-3 pictures and worked our way up to the current six. You definitely want to keep the choices few and simple at first.

The next breakthrough came when he essentially would punch the picture of what he wanted on his own (first big want - corn chips…) and then he would get it from us. He didn’t make a vocal noise to go with it, but he got his point across and everyone was happy.

Even better was when he’d reach for something and we’d say, “use your pictures!” then he would go touch the picture of that something and come back to us to get it. I’ve even seen him hand me something he wanted, go completely across the downstairs to touch the picture, and then come back to get it!

Lately it’s gotten really good. He’s giving us his words (or word approximations) while pointing (we’re tickled stupid when he points with his index finger) to the picture. This nearly knocked us flat the first time he did it. We still sometimes have to prompt him to point to the picture even if we know what he wants. We want to keep reinforcing the pictures, and so far that’s worked very well. In all likelihood, this will be our most effective form of communication for a good while, though clearly we’re seeing great verbal improvement as well.

So we usually get:

(All caps means the stress is on that syllable.)

• Points to tea -> “KUH kuh” (for ‘cup’ - he makes these syllables longer in duration for ‘cup’, which is important since he uses ‘k’ sounds a lot)
• Points to chicken nuggets -> “NUH nuh” (for ‘nuggets’)
• Points to cheese toast -> “CO co” (his word for ‘toast’ since he substitutes ‘c’ sounds in for ‘t’ sounds)
• Points to veggie sticks -> “keh keh” or “k-k” (like two, breathy ‘k’ sounds said quickly - hard to describe - which is what he does to several words that end in ‘k’ or ‘ks’ like ’socks’)

It’s hard to describe what a miracle this is.

Minor variations - for cheese toast, he may do the above and then go to the toaster, reach for it, then say “coco” again. For nuggets, he may do the above, go to the microwave, reach for it, and say “nuh nuh” again.

He’s not been into crackers lately, so that one’s been ignored for a while. When he was on a cracker binge, he pointed to it a lot, I think largely because he was so excited that he could actually say ‘cracker’.

I promised I’d say why we focus on food and not toys and other stuff. The main issue we’re facing is that the pictures represent something literal to him. With food, what’s on the picture is what he gets. It’s a literal representation of that food. Except for one. Bonus question - which one doesn’t work very well and why?

With toys, a picture of a book means I want THAT book, not just any book. This means that if he’s faced with choices on the toy board of a few things he really doesn’t want to play with, he won’t pick any of them. We have a toy board, but it has been a flop so far compared to the food board. The food board has the advantage of that he only will eat a half-dozen actual foods. So literally everything he eats can be captured on that board. Still, we are staying at it on the toy board. Someday it’ll click.

We have been unable to generalize the objects in the pictures, though that’s the long-term goal. Eventually, the idea is to have a picture of just about any food mean “I’m hungry” with the next step being a way to choose what specific food he wants using specific pictures. This creates a sort of decision tree that could be consolidated into a book if need be.

You might be able to see where a system like this starts breaking down. If you need a literal picture for everything your child might want, you could end up with hundreds of them over time spread over picture boards all over the house. You can put them into a ‘picture book’ (basically a portable photo album), but you need to get to some way to work through it without flipping pages all day.

Our therapists have described the eventual goal in these steps: 1) Child picks a broad category of want (food, drink, toy, book, person, etc.), 2) Parent or child flips to the section that shows individual pictures related to that category (let’s keep with food for this example), 3) Child picks specific want from the pictures in the food section (e.g., toast).

It’s step 1 that we can’t get past yet, and that would probably be the case for most anyone starting out with this. J-Man doesn’t generalize from a picture of any food or a picture of any drink to “I’m hungry” or “I’m thirsty.” Choosing a picture means “I want that.”

In addition to those goals, the idea is to transition to other representations of the objects rather than just photos. This could include more cartoonish drawings or even line drawings. Obviously the primary goal is to get him to communicate well verbally, but again, any communication is good communication. If this helps him communicate his needs until speech can someday catch up better, then we’re all for it.

Answer to the bonus question - the puree. Because puree could mean any puree (applesauce, pears, sweet potatoes, whatever), so it’s not literal. Therefore, he pretty much never picks it because it’s too vague a choice.

Someday I’ll try to get a video of this. Whenever we pull out a camera, he either hams it up or stops doing whatever he was doing, so we’ll need to be subtle about it.

In the meantime, if you have questions about how we do it, feel free to ask. We’d love to hear from anyone else using this approach as well. Thanks!

Our little bundle of vestibular sensory issues decided this past weekend to say, “Forget that mess! I’m going down my slide!”

To which all God’s people said, “You know that’s right! Come on down, brother!”

We put him on top of the slide, and he sat there all by himself. First time he ever did that without holding on to one of us. Then he grabbed each side of the slide at the top like he was preparing for a luge run and pulled himself forward and down the 8′ run with the 4 1/2′ vertical drop. (Kinda steep)

Since he’s never even thought about doing this before, you’ll notice there’s nothing but ground down there - no mulch, no nada… Bad daddy…

You win a lot of small victories in therapies, but then you get days where he just busts out a home run of an achievement of something he’s never even contemplated trying before. He did it all by himself, and then he went and did it again, and again, and again.

These are the days you jump up and cheer until you throw out a shoulder from pumping your fist in the air.

His expression in the 2nd picture is absolutely priceless.

When the going gets tough, just remind yourself how freakin’ cute your kid is!

J-Man’s Easter Report:

The Easter Bunny doesn’t bring candy because, well, I won’t eat it. I only eat snacks that are in the tortilla chip food group. I loved my book. I was pretty whatev about the Little People boat and extra pirates. The plastic eggs looked pretty while flying off the couch.

Daddy looked sad. He said he asked the Easter Bunny for a Little People Noah’s Ark with the extra Pirate Pack instead.

Arrrrrrrrr!!! We’re being attacked by a freakin’ giant monkey!

Our occasional walk through the pictorial history of our pride and joy.

In other words, “show me some dang baby pictures!”

[From a couple of years ago]

Thank ya, thank ya very much.

There is no spoon…

Daddy finally got the swing set and slide pretty much finished. Go me!

Pictures are worth a thousand words. So, here are 3,000 words.