Tim-and-J.jpgTim is a freelance writer and web developer who works for Myself, a business that has been thumbing its nose at The Man for almost ten years now. He’s both a stay-at-home (sounds better than ‘kept man’) and a work-at-home-and-anywhere-else-I-can-get-away-with-it dad.

Tim is a proud, self-professed geek. He’s completed two marathons, both while sane. He has an unreasonable knowledge of pro cycling, thinks prime numbers are cool, and enjoys watching disaster shows on the various Smart Channels. Tim was recently crowned Most Valuable Drinker by the Coffee Growers of the World (fair trade, natch).

Mary-and-J.jpgMary has some long, incomprehensible job title and has worked for The-Company-That-Shall-Not-Be-Named (TCTSNBN) for the past 16 years. Her current job at TCTSNBN reportedly has achieved the metric of sucking 100% less than her former position.

Mary is affectionately known in our house as “Mary-pedia” for her vast knowledge of random trivia, particularly in pioneer-era practices and all things rural. She can churn butter with a paper clip. She has read out three branches of the local library system. Monitor glow makes her even sexier; add in her glasses and it’s all over.

J-Man-Portrait.jpgThe J-Man is our seven-year-old, autistic son. He’s working through the challenges of autism, Sensory Processing Disorder, ‘oral defensiveness’ (aka I Hate Things Near or In My Mouth, or Feeding-Fu), severe speech delays, and the rest of the stuff that comes with being a school-aged kid. He attends a self-contained, full-day, autism class at a nearby elementary school. In the face of these challenges, he brightens every room he walks into and bravely faces every barrier put in front of him.

His favorite things include Signing Time, drawing interesting patterns on his Magna Doodle, all his teachers, our overstuffed recliner, and stealing your chair. His favorite direction is up, which fills us with hope.

E-Portrait.jpgDale Jr. is our three-year-old, neurotypical son, who is renowned for his inexhaustible energy and his ability to speak 1000 words a minute. He’s into everything, specifically outsmarting all the adults in the room, is fearlessly independent, and has a remarkably inquisitive mind. And most of all, he makes our hearts sing.

And everywhere they go, everybody loves them both.

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Kelli Martinez April 24, 2009 at 12:16 pm

Just read about your expierence with Therapeutic Listening, my son is 2 1/2 and will be 3 in June and has just started working with Therapeutic Listening we have now been using it at home for 15 min for the past two days.

He was the same way about anything on his head or near his ears but will wear the headphones until his buzzer/timer goes off. Would love to hear more about you and your family and maybe we could follow each other through the process!

Leigh May 27, 2012 at 8:36 am

I just found your blog and read your “about” — I just want to say what a fun, happy family you all seem to be and those boys are lucky to have you as parents! I’m glad I found you!

Kiki July 9, 2012 at 4:23 am

I just want to say GodBless you all! This is the first site that involved autism that didn’t have me crying instead I was laughing ! My son is 3 and sounds just like your little J-Man but with the intense meltdowns, and melatonin won’t get me to stay asleep attitude!!! I also am a stay at home mom that does freelance work, I just would like to thank you guys again!

Judy May 5, 2013 at 3:47 pm

I just finished reading you book “I Am An Autism Parent”. I am also a parent of a special child and although he is not Autistic, your words encompass many more people’s lives and the challenges raising our kids than I think you initially expected them to. Much of what you write is true to all of us, being the best we can be today and to just keep on keeping on every day after. Our son is 25 now and still needs direction to help him navigate the world on a daily basis. He is also a wonderful, caring human being of whom we are very proud. Like you we have had lots of help along the way and have learned from many – some good and some bad – but we keep on learning and trying to help him be the best person he can be which is what we want for all our children is it not. I left a 20+ year career when I was 40 and waded into the job of Educational Assistant with nothing but my life lessons with 3 children and have never looked back. Some of my co-workers also have special children and we try to support each other as only a parent in the trenches can! I am definitely recommending your book to them, but also to the ones who aren’t as lucky as us to have special kids in hopes that it gives them a better understanding of the kids we work with and their families. Thank you again for a wonderful read.

Vincent Crocitto February 21, 2014 at 2:24 pm


My name is Vincent Crocitto. On behalf of the Oquendo family, today we are launching an autism awareness page dedicated to the life of Avonte Oquendo. He was a 13 year old autistic child that recently died tragically.


You’re a very big voice in the autism world. I’d be honored if you can help spread the word about Avonte and help us draw awareness to Autism in general. A simple tweet or Facebook like would be highly-appreciated.

Thanks again and keep up the great work!

All the Best,

Vincent Crocitto

Tamie Salter November 28, 2014 at 3:20 pm

Hi, We are trying to spread the word about Que Innovations that is developing hardware (robotic ball QueBall) and Apps to help with autism therapy. Our latest App ‘Learn Emotions’ is available for free download on the App store or a link can be found on autism speaks website.

Que Innovations

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