Like This

by Tim on November 22, 2010

Another discovery from my writing file.

When they ask, “How do you keep up with everything?”
show them pictures of him smiling with his therapists and teachers,
show them everything he could not do three months ago, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How does all this sensory stuff work?”
take their hands and stroke a purring kitten,
wrap them in an embrace, dance with a symphony,
bring them out into the sun and let it warm their faces, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How does your son being different affect your life?”
draw them a picture of a large dairy farm with endless herds
and one remarkable, dancing, purple, polka-dotted cow
whom everyone marvels and smiles at, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How do you make sense of his need for order?”
point to the heavens and the procession of constellations
and the orbiting planets and the traveling moon, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How can repeating the same thing over and over help him?”
show them the waves as they roll on to the shore,
recede back to the great ocean, and then return once more;
show them the rain falling to nourish the fields, and the water rising back up to the sky, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How does he communicate with pictures?”
show them the trees and the sky and the lilies of the field,
bring out photos of the Pieta, distant galaxies, and the helices of DNA, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How does it feel to speak to someone all day every day and have him never really talk back?”
Face the open air, kneel, and pray, and say,
“Like this.”

When they ask, “How will you deal with the future?”
show them the depth of his great blue eyes,
hum his favorite song and let them see his head fall to your shoulder,
and kiss him gently on his cheek, and say,
“Like this.”

And when they ask, “How do you parent a child with autism?”
Stand with your arms open, your chest out, and your head high, and say,
“Like this.”

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{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

Brenda (mamabegood) November 22, 2010 at 7:29 am

Exactly, EXACTLY!! This is absolutely beautiful!

Dani G November 22, 2010 at 8:22 am

A great read this morning. Another reason to keep my chin up today!

Jennifer November 22, 2010 at 2:12 pm

You brought tears to my eyes. This is perfect. Thank you!

donormama November 22, 2010 at 9:07 pm

Absolutely beautiful. Thank you.

Elysa November 23, 2010 at 6:57 am

Excellent, beautiful post. Well said!!

Jen November 23, 2010 at 7:14 pm

Thank you, Tim. Another perfect post that has brought tears to my eyes and made me thankful for my amazing little boy.

Debby November 23, 2010 at 9:01 pm

Absolutely brilliant and beautiful, as always, Tim.

Somehow you always find a way to say everything that’s on my mind.

Erin November 24, 2010 at 10:56 pm

Perfect, Perfect, Perfect!

S. Donovan November 28, 2010 at 3:43 pm

Wow, This was an a-mazing read. Made me a little choked up and smile. Great Post.

S. Donovan November 28, 2010 at 3:44 pm

If you don’t mind I would love to share a link of this on my page. As I think this post is too good not to share.

Tim November 28, 2010 at 10:48 pm

Thanks everyone for all your kind comments. Glad this was meaningful to you!

@S. Donovan – By all means link to this. I’d be honored!

In general, if anyone wants to actually reprint/repost something from our blog, then please do ask permission. Otherwise, linking is like a kind pat on the back in my mind, so link away! :-)

KWombles November 30, 2010 at 10:06 am

Lovely. :-)

Alysia December 17, 2010 at 3:22 pm

Beautiful. Brought tears to my eyes. I can’t believe I didn’t read it until now. Just what I needed on a hard day like this one.
thank you.

Kristi November 28, 2012 at 6:00 pm

Absolutely perfectly said. And it brought tears to my eyes, too.

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