I’ve been thinking lately about the Just People. And the Should People. And especially the Should Just People.
You know them. You may have even been them. I sure was!
“Why don’t you JUST make him do it?”
“You SHOULD go GFCF because it helps all kids with autism.”
“You SHOULD JUST ignore him when he does things like that because he’s only pretending that it bothers him.”
There are the My Child People, the In My Day People, and the All Kids People.
“MY CHILD would never be allowed to act like that.”
“Well, IN MY DAY, parents actually parented instead of this “make sure his needs are met” stuff they do now.”
and my favorite:
“ALL KIDS are (insert some small issue compared to all the other issues) at this age so why do you think it’s any different for you?”
Well, I’ll tell you what…
If you JUST listened to parents or to people with autism, you might understand better. You SHOULD do some research on your own and not believe everything Jenny McCarthy says. You SHOULD JUST ignore people who go on TV and make blanket statements about people with autism. MY CHILD is acting in a way that makes sense to him at this point. IN MY DAY, we parent by making sure his needs are met. ALL KIDS are special in their own ways, no matter what you think.
Maybe if we all remembered all of that, we would in fact realize that people with autism? Are Just People too.
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- …because you never know what their story is.
- Stop Reading About Autism in the News
- What Does ‘Strong’ Mean to You?
- Learning How Not to Say “I’m Sorry.”