Comments on: Do the “Whatever It Takes Pokey” http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/06/07/do-the-whatever-it-takes-pokey/ Parenting, Autism, and the Pursuit of Being Awesome Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:51:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Tim http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/06/07/do-the-whatever-it-takes-pokey/comment-page-1/#comment-7905 Tim Fri, 19 Jun 2009 15:52:57 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=807#comment-7905 Abby - We've had some behavioral issues to deal with around here since the arrival of the baby too. Of course, all siblings go through this, though perhaps we experience them in a somewhat more amplified way and often can't follow the same adjustment techniques that other parents might use. It's quite possible that could be at least some of what Hallie is dealing with. I try to keep reminding myself that as much as I am having to adjust to two kids in the house, the J-Man is probably having it several times harder. It's not like we can interview, counsel, etc. him to completely understand what he's experiencing, though, but man I wish we could! We were big Old McDonald people around here for a while, particularly because we got some speech out of him using the song. The Hokey Pokey tune is a more recent thing. For a long time it's been this lullaby tune whose origin I have no clue about. Hey, it works. I've learned not to fight anything that helps. (Assuming it's both legal and non-destructive, of course!) I think some days during these chaotic periods of adjustment that it's often worth yielding a bit on some of the things we're trying to get our kids to transition away from. I was taking more of a hard line on some issues here and doing that battle of wills thing with him, but having a new baby in the house has made me have to learn how to soften my approach to certain things - for everyone's sake and my own personal sanity! I think overall it's shown me that this is a better way for me to do things in the future too. I guess if we do the best we can and do whatever we gotta do to do that, what more can we ask of ourselves? Belated congrats on Lea! You all have some seriously adorable kids! Thanks! Abby – We’ve had some behavioral issues to deal with around here since the arrival of the baby too. Of course, all siblings go through this, though perhaps we experience them in a somewhat more amplified way and often can’t follow the same adjustment techniques that other parents might use.

It’s quite possible that could be at least some of what Hallie is dealing with. I try to keep reminding myself that as much as I am having to adjust to two kids in the house, the J-Man is probably having it several times harder. It’s not like we can interview, counsel, etc. him to completely understand what he’s experiencing, though, but man I wish we could!

We were big Old McDonald people around here for a while, particularly because we got some speech out of him using the song. The Hokey Pokey tune is a more recent thing. For a long time it’s been this lullaby tune whose origin I have no clue about. Hey, it works. I’ve learned not to fight anything that helps. (Assuming it’s both legal and non-destructive, of course!)

I think some days during these chaotic periods of adjustment that it’s often worth yielding a bit on some of the things we’re trying to get our kids to transition away from. I was taking more of a hard line on some issues here and doing that battle of wills thing with him, but having a new baby in the house has made me have to learn how to soften my approach to certain things – for everyone’s sake and my own personal sanity! I think overall it’s shown me that this is a better way for me to do things in the future too.

I guess if we do the best we can and do whatever we gotta do to do that, what more can we ask of ourselves?

Belated congrats on Lea! You all have some seriously adorable kids!

Thanks!

]]> By: abby schrader http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/06/07/do-the-whatever-it-takes-pokey/comment-page-1/#comment-7605 abby schrader Fri, 12 Jun 2009 21:27:37 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=807#comment-7605 Hallie, who has been tentatively, for now, but we will revisit the question no doubt often, cleared of being on the spectrum, is the same way (mostly but not exclusively) around eating. For her, the tune that works most often is Old McDonald. Unless she's on total strike, which she is now. I am hoping it's being three, jealousy of sister, loss of most bottles (am capitulating today and today is going marginally better) and eve of preschool. But you do what you gotta do. And you guys do a great job. Hallie, who has been tentatively, for now, but we will revisit the question no doubt often, cleared of being on the spectrum, is the same way (mostly but not exclusively) around eating. For her, the tune that works most often is Old McDonald. Unless she’s on total strike, which she is now. I am hoping it’s being three, jealousy of sister, loss of most bottles (am capitulating today and today is going marginally better) and eve of preschool. But you do what you gotta do. And you guys do a great job.

]]> By: JB http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/06/07/do-the-whatever-it-takes-pokey/comment-page-1/#comment-7540 JB Wed, 10 Jun 2009 11:35:02 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=807#comment-7540 Alas, the Hokey Pokey really IS what it's all about! Alas, the Hokey Pokey really IS what it’s all about!

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