Comments on: Worry http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/01/02/worry/ Two parents, one autistic toddler, a new baby, half a clue, and just enough light to see by Thu, 09 Sep 2010 01:45:21 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: Mary http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/01/02/worry/comment-page-1/#comment-2933 Mary Wed, 07 Jan 2009 15:11:59 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=574#comment-2933 @asha - thanks! I try really hard, but I'm not one of those "natural mothers." I learned everything I know from reading books... and they don't always give you the right instructions. Why CAN'T there be a real manual with each new baby? @JoyMama - I do think it somewhat hormonal, but I also think it's probably just me as well. I've always been a worrier - with good reason when I was a kid, and even as an adult. I worry less now than ever before because a) I have Tim, and b) there is SOME control over my life. I guess maybe the lack of control is what's getting me? @MPJ - I'm hoping the J-man will get used to the new baby the way he gets used to most new things - repeated exposure being the key. That one will have to wait awhile though! @asha – thanks! I try really hard, but I’m not one of those “natural mothers.” I learned everything I know from reading books… and they don’t always give you the right instructions. Why CAN’T there be a real manual with each new baby?

@JoyMama – I do think it somewhat hormonal, but I also think it’s probably just me as well. I’ve always been a worrier – with good reason when I was a kid, and even as an adult. I worry less now than ever before because a) I have Tim, and b) there is SOME control over my life. I guess maybe the lack of control is what’s getting me?

@MPJ – I’m hoping the J-man will get used to the new baby the way he gets used to most new things – repeated exposure being the key. That one will have to wait awhile though!

]]> By: Mary (MPJ) http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/01/02/worry/comment-page-1/#comment-2929 Mary (MPJ) Wed, 07 Jan 2009 06:54:21 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=574#comment-2929 I worried about a lot of the same things before my baby girl was born. And my son actually didn't respond well at all when she was born -- he hated her. But she grew on him and has been his best friend and best therapist. Even if J-Man doesn't do well with the new baby, hang in there. Sometimes new babies just take getting used to. :) I worried about a lot of the same things before my baby girl was born. And my son actually didn’t respond well at all when she was born — he hated her. But she grew on him and has been his best friend and best therapist. Even if J-Man doesn’t do well with the new baby, hang in there. Sometimes new babies just take getting used to. :)

]]> By: JoyMama http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/01/02/worry/comment-page-1/#comment-2877 JoyMama Sat, 03 Jan 2009 13:23:44 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=574#comment-2877 I think the Creator built worry into the preggo hormones... I was all tied up in knots about my second kiddo being a poor sleeper & fussy spit-up-y baby like my first, but when she arrived she nursed easily and slept remarkably. (Though it's my 2nd child who has the autism, go figure). I too have a husband and co-blogger who bequeathed to both children a top-of-the-charts head circumference! As for the crib issue -- any chance you could score a hand-me-down crib from someone and just have two for a while? Hang in there! I think the Creator built worry into the preggo hormones… I was all tied up in knots about my second kiddo being a poor sleeper & fussy spit-up-y baby like my first, but when she arrived she nursed easily and slept remarkably. (Though it’s my 2nd child who has the autism, go figure). I too have a husband and co-blogger who bequeathed to both children a top-of-the-charts head circumference!

As for the crib issue — any chance you could score a hand-me-down crib from someone and just have two for a while?

Hang in there!

]]> By: asha http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2009/01/02/worry/comment-page-1/#comment-2873 asha Sat, 03 Jan 2009 04:36:43 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=574#comment-2873 HI Mary , You are a wonderful mom , you take such good care of Jman,inspite of being a working mom of course worrying is bound to happen.Its always going to be there but seeing JMAN's progress I feel a day will come when he might help you with the baby .Miracles do happen ,my bella is a miracle baby . HI Mary ,

You are a wonderful mom , you take such good care of Jman,inspite of being a working mom
of course worrying is bound to happen.Its always going to be there but seeing JMAN’s progress I feel a day will come when he might help you with the baby .Miracles do happen ,my bella is a miracle baby .

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