Comments on: From Research Studies to Wanton Self-Reflection http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2008/10/19/from-research-studies-to-wanton-self-reflection/ Parenting, Autism, and the Pursuit of Being Awesome Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:51:42 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Tim http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2008/10/19/from-research-studies-to-wanton-self-reflection/comment-page-1/#comment-1882 Tim Fri, 31 Oct 2008 02:38:46 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=380#comment-1882 Hey, Michelle! Thanks for cheering me on. Over the last few days I've been surprised about how much those research questions have lingered with me and how much I'd rather not think about them. I think answering all that stuff depressed both of us. It was one of those reality-check exercises where you realize you're living on a whole other plane of existence from most of the rest of the world. But given everything y'all have been through, I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. One of the universal issues among parents whose one and only kid is autistic is that they lose all frame of reference about what 'typically developing' is supposed to be. On the occasions when we do intersect with the typically developing world, it can feel like being hit with a wave of sobering reality. You can see not only how far you've come but also how far there is yet to go. Hey, Michelle! Thanks for cheering me on. Over the last few days I’ve been surprised about how much those research questions have lingered with me and how much I’d rather not think about them. I think answering all that stuff depressed both of us. It was one of those reality-check exercises where you realize you’re living on a whole other plane of existence from most of the rest of the world. But given everything y’all have been through, I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know.

One of the universal issues among parents whose one and only kid is autistic is that they lose all frame of reference about what ‘typically developing’ is supposed to be. On the occasions when we do intersect with the typically developing world, it can feel like being hit with a wave of sobering reality. You can see not only how far you’ve come but also how far there is yet to go.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/2008/10/19/from-research-studies-to-wanton-self-reflection/comment-page-1/#comment-1793 Michelle Tue, 21 Oct 2008 14:48:46 +0000 http://www.bothhandsandaflashlight.com/?p=380#comment-1793 You're doing a great job, Tim. And believe me, you aren't the first parent in the world to have those feelings. I never imagined my family would be on the roller coaster ride we are on either. I have to remind myself every day that being a stay home mom really is an investment. And when they are grown and out of the house, I can have the bathroom to myself! You’re doing a great job, Tim. And believe me, you aren’t the first parent in the world to have those feelings. I never imagined my family would be on the roller coaster ride we are on either. I have to remind myself every day that being a stay home mom really is an investment. And when they are grown and out of the house, I can have the bathroom to myself!

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