Today I went to the doctor because I’m still tired, and not really able to concentrate, and have no stamina, and have NO initiative to either start anything or finish whatever I feebly started.
She told me to eat right, exercise, get more sleep, and take time for myself. I wanted to cry right there in the office. I asked if there couldn’t be a drug for me – she said that drugs were a short-term solution, and that I needed to look at the long-term and take better care of myself physically, or I simply wasn’t going to get better. I told her what my day consists of, and how there isn’t time for me to do all those things. She said I would have to make time. Uh huh. She suggested I hire someone to do the stuff that takes up my time, because “since you don’t do anything except work, you must have all this money sitting around.” No really, she said that.
So J-man, instead of working with you in the evenings, and instead of cooking, or doing laundry, or whatever, I’m just going to take that time for myself. Instead of paying for (I don’t know) our mortgage, and car payment, and Tim’s student loans, and therapy bills, and utilities, and groceries, I’m just going to hire someone to be my personal servant.
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And on top of that, I freelance as much as possible by cramming work into the crevices of the day, do the stay-at-home dad thing, shuttle him to preschool and therapy, and generally stress as I am prone to do.
Mary’s salary and work covers the normal bills (at least for now), but if we want to have anything left over to buy him what he needs or pay for the looming pile of stuff and services he’s going to need, my work is what may prevent staggering debt from piling up. To think we’re luckier than many people is frightening.
Like she said, “hire someone?!” I love advice from people who have no clue. We’re still looking for money to potentially hire private therapists for J-Man.
Oh yeah, and we just used up our $5,000 flexible spending account for the year. Here we were worried that we were overestimating our contributions. And it’s still May…
That’s a ridiculous and completely insensitive response. Maybe it’s time for a new doctor?
I can’t believe she said that. Sounds like it’s time to get a new doctor.
Holy cow. That is unreal. “Completely out of touch with reality” seems like a polite comment at this point.
I once told someone that I’d be really good at time management, if only I had some time which I could manage …..